# Dying Truth

> What Happens and What Helps


## Posts

- [When the Help You Expected Isn’t There](https://dyingtruth.org/articles/caregiving-help-at-home/): Most families assume that when caregiving becomes too much, more help will appear. They’ll hire someone. Insurance will cover it. Hospice will send more people.
- [An Advance Directive Isn’t Enough](https://dyingtruth.org/articles/advance-directive-isnt-enough/): Many people believe they’re covered. They filled out the form. They signed it in front of a notary.
- [When You’re the One Dying](https://dyingtruth.org/articles/when-youre-dying/): Most information about dying is written for the people standing around the bed. This one is for you.

## Pages

- [Articles](https://dyingtruth.org/articles/)
- [What to Do at 3 a.m.](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/what-to-do-at-3-am/): The middle of the night is when fear hits hardest. The house is dark. Everyone else is asleep. You’re the one listening to every breath.
- [Accessibility](https://dyingtruth.org/accessibility/): People come to Dying Truth in some of the hardest moments of their lives. It should be easy to read and easy to use, whatever device or assistance you rely on.
- [Terms of Use](https://dyingtruth.org/terms/): By using Dying Truth, you agree to these terms. They exist to make clear what this site is, and what it is not.
- [Privacy Policy](https://dyingtruth.org/privacy/): Dying Truth is a free educational resource. We collect as little information as possible, and we do not sell it.
- [The Order of Help](https://dyingtruth.org/order-of-help/): A website can list all sorts of resources, but a list isn’t the same as help.
- [Someone Died. What Do I Do Now?](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/what-to-do-when-someone-dies/): You don’t have to make every decision now.
- [I Need Help Understanding Palliative Care](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/what-is-palliative-care/): Palliative care is specialized care for people living with a serious illness.
- [I Need Help With Distress, Trauma, or Caregiver Strain for a Veteran](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/veteran-trauma-and-caregiver-strain/): Serious illness and dying can bring back experiences that have been quiet for years.
- [I Need Help With Serious Illness, Comfort, or Hospice Through VA](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/va-hospice-and-comfort-care/): Military service can affect where care is available, who has to authorize it, and how it’s paid for.
- [I Need Help Planning VA Care Before a Crisis](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/va-care-planning/): Start with what the Veteran wants and what’s becoming hard to manage.
- [I Need Help With VA Benefits, Claims, or Family Coverage](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/va-benefits-claims-family-coverage/): Benefits matter when they change access to care, caregiving, housing, income, or support after a death.
- [I Was Told I’m Dying. What Next?](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/terminal-diagnosis-what-next/): You may have heard that the illness can’t be cured, treatment is no longer helping, or time may be short.
- [What Do I Tell the Kids?](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/talking-to-kids-about-death/): You’re trying to decide what to say, how much to say, and whether they should see the person who’s sick or dying.
- [I Need Help With a Symptom Change Now](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/symptom-change-now/): Pain, breathing, restlessness, alertness, swallowing, eating, drinking, or another symptom has changed.
- [I Think Someone May Be Dying](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/signs-someone-is-dying/): A person who’s dying may sleep more, eat and drink less, become weaker or less responsive, or have changes in breathing, swallowing, skin, or awareness.
- [I’m Worried Someone Can’t Care for Themselves](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/self-neglect/): Living alone, refusing help, keeping a cluttered home, or making choices others disagree with doesn’t by itself mean someone can’t care for themselves.
- [I Think Someone Is Being Scammed or Their Identity Has Been Stolen](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/scam-or-identity-theft/): Being deceived doesn’t mean someone was careless or foolish. Scams are built to create trust, fear, urgency, or hope.
- [I Need Help With Transportation to Medical Appointments](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/rides-to-medical-appointments/): A ride may not be enough.
- [I Need Help Returning or Disposing of Medical Equipment and Supplies](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/return-medical-equipment/): After someone dies, medical equipment may still belong to hospice, a medical-equipment supplier, a loan program, or another provider.
- [I Need a Break from Caregiving](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/respite-care/): Ask before exhaustion makes the current plan unsafe.
- [I Don’t Want the Care They’re Recommending](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/refuse-medical-treatment/): If you can make this decision for yourself, you can ask questions, refuse a treatment, ask about another option, or change your mind about treatment that’s already started.
- [I Got a Referral. What Next?](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/referral-what-happens-next/): A doctor, hospital, therapist, or other clinician told you the person needs another service, appointment, or level of care.
- [I Need to Prepare for a Medical or Caregiving Emergency](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/prepare-for-a-medical-emergency/): Emergencies are harder when no one can find the information, get into the home, or knows what to do next.
- [I Need Help Planning or Paying for a Funeral](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/plan-or-pay-for-a-funeral/): Funeral decisions are easier to make before a death, when there’s more time to talk about wishes, compare prices, and decide what matters.
- [Someone With Dementia Is Missing](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/person-with-dementia-missing/): Start looking now. Don’t wait to see if they come back.
- [My Child May Need Hospice or Palliative Care](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/pediatric-hospice-palliative-care/): Hospice for a child can work differently than hospice for an adult.
- [The Pain Isn’t Being Controlled](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/pain-not-controlled/): The medicine isn’t working well enough, the pain comes back too soon, or you called and nobody has called back.
- [I Got a Nursing Home or Assisted Living Discharge Notice](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/nursing-home-discharge-notice/): A discharge notice can feel final.
- [The Facility Isn’t Fixing It](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/nursing-home-complaint/): You’ve raised the problem and nothing has changed.
- [I Am Not Legal Family](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/not-legal-family/): You may be the person who knows them best and still be told you can’t receive information, visit, or make decisions.
- [I Don’t Have Anyone to Speak for Me](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/no-one-to-speak-for-me/): You’re being asked to name someone to make medical decisions if you can’t, and there’s no obvious person.
- [I Need Help With Money and Bills After a Death](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/money-and-bills-after-a-death/): Bills may keep arriving after someone dies, while income, benefits, and access to accounts change.
- [Medicare Denied or Is Ending Coverage](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/medicare-denial-or-coverage-ending/): You can often appeal a Medicare denial.
- [We Need an Interpreter](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/medical-interpreter/): You’re being asked to make decisions in a language you don’t fully understand, or someone you love can’t follow what the medical team is saying.
- [I Need Medical Equipment or Supplies](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/medical-equipment-and-supplies/): Start with what the person can’t safely do without the item, then find out who’s responsible for getting it there.
- [I Need Help Making a Medical Decision for Someone Else](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/medical-decision-for-someone-else/): A serious medical decision may involve surgery, life-support treatment, another round of treatment, a feeding tube, dialysis, hospitalization, or whether to begin, continue, limit, or stop an intervention.
- [I Need Help Applying for Medicaid Long-Term Care](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/medicaid-long-term-care/): Medicaid can help pay for long-term care, but applying is different from signing up for ordinary health coverage.
- [I Need to Manage Someone Else’s Money](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/manage-someone-elses-money/): Someone may need help paying bills, using a bank account, dealing with insurance, or keeping up with benefits.
- [I Want to Make Sure My Wishes Are Followed](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/make-sure-my-wishes-are-followed/): Writing down what you want and naming someone to speak for you are two different jobs. Do both while you can.
- [I Need to Make a Plan for the Pets](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/make-a-plan-for-pets/): If someone is seriously ill, hospitalized, moving, or dying, the pets need a plan too.
- [I Need a Working Phone or Internet Connection](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/low-cost-phone-and-internet/): A working phone or internet connection may be how you reach medical care, refill medications, arrange transportation, manage benefits, or stay in touch with family.
- [I Live Far Away](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/long-distance-caregiving/): You’re getting the information by phone, from someone who says they’re fine, or from someone nearby who tells you not to worry.
- [I Live Alone and Need a Backup Plan](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/living-alone-backup-plan/): Living alone with a serious illness can work.
- [I Need Legal Help](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/legal-help/): If there’s a deadline, something you’re being asked to sign, or a decision that may be hard to undo, start there.
- [I Want This to Be Over](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/i-want-this-to-be-over/): Don’t assume you know what they mean. Ask.
- [Is This an Emergency?](https://dyingtruth.org/i-need-emergency-help/): Start with what you see.
- [I Don’t Know Where to Start](https://dyingtruth.org/i-dont-know-where-to-start/): When so many things are happening, every problem can feel urgent.
- [I Need Help Understanding or Starting Hospice for Someone Else](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/how-to-start-hospice/): Hospice isn’t just about what happens in the last days. It’s a way to bring more care into the person’s life while there’s still time to use it.
- [I Need Help Finding or Keeping a Home](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/housing-help/): Serious illness, caregiving, or a death can change whether someone can afford, safely use, or stay in the current home.
- [I Need Help With a Hospital Discharge](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/hospital-discharge/): The hospital says the person is leaving.
- [The Hospice Isn’t Working](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/hospice-not-working/): You signed up for hospice and the help isn’t showing up, nobody is calling back, or the care isn’t enough.
- [I Want to Understand Hospice for Myself](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/hospice-for-myself/): You can ask about hospice yourself. You don’t have to wait for a doctor to bring it up, and you don’t need anyone’s permission.
- [I Need Help Making My Home Safer and More Accessible](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/home-safety-and-accessibility/): Small changes can prevent falls, make caregiving easier, and help someone use the home more safely.
- [I Need Help Paying My Utility Bills](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/help-paying-utility-bills/): Preventing a shutoff is usually easier than restoring service after it’s been disconnected.
- [I Need Help Paying for My Medications](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/help-paying-for-medications/): If a prescription costs more than you can afford, first find out what’s making it cost that much.
- [I Need Help Caring for Someone](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/help-caring-for-someone/): Caring for someone at home can become more than one person can safely manage.
- [I Need Help After a Fall](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/help-after-a-fall/): A fall can mean someone is injured. It can also mean the current care plan is no longer enough.
- [I’m Grieving and Need Support](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/grief-support/): Grief support isn’t only for spouses, children, or legal family.
- [I Need Help Getting or Paying for Medical Care](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/getting-or-paying-for-medical-care/): Medical care can be hard to reach even when someone has insurance.
- [I Need Food or Meals](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/food-assistance-and-meals/): Start with what can’t wait. If someone needs food today, solve today’s food problem first.
- [I’m Worried About Firearms in the Home](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/firearms-in-the-home/): There are firearms in the home, and something has changed.
- [I Need Help Finding Mental Health Care](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/find-mental-health-care/): Serious illness, caregiving, dying, and grief can affect sleep, mood, anxiety, functioning, and the ability to keep going.
- [I Need Help Finding a Care Facility](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/find-a-care-facility/): Start with what care the person needs now.
- [I Can’t Pay for Everything](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/financial-help-and-benefits/): When there isn’t enough money for everything, start with the need that causes the most harm if it goes unhandled.
- [My Family Won’t Talk About It](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/family-wont-talk-about-dying/): You want to talk about what’s happening. Your family changes the subject, tells you not to think that way, or insists you’re going to beat this.
- [We Disagree About What Should Happen](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/family-disagrees-about-care/): Who can decide? What decision needs to be made? What would the person want?
- [My Family Is Deciding What I Get to Know](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/family-deciding-what-i-get-to-know/): Sometimes family asks the doctor not to tell you things. Sometimes the doctor goes along with it.
- [I Need to Talk With Them About What They Want](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/end-of-life-conversation/): If the person can still tell you what matters to them, ask now.
- [I Need Emotional or Spiritual Support](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/emotional-and-spiritual-support/): You don’t have to be in crisis to need someone to listen.
- [I Think Someone Is Being Abused, Neglected, or Exploited](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/elder-abuse-neglect-exploitation/): You aren’t deciding what happened. You’re telling someone who can find out.
- [I Don’t Know What They Would Want](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/dont-know-what-they-would-want/): The person can’t clearly tell you what they want, and a medical decision has to be made.
- [I Need to Safely Dispose of Medications](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/dispose-of-medications/): Don’t dispose of everything the same way.
- [I’m Home, but the Discharge Plan Isn’t Working](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/discharge-plan-not-working/): Something that was supposed to happen after discharge hasn’t happened.
- [I Need Help With Difficult Dementia Behaviors](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/difficult-dementia-behaviors/): Agitation, refusing care, repeating the same question, accusations, following you room to room, or getting worse every evening can wear a caregiver down.
- [I Need Help Keeping Someone With Dementia Safe at Home](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/dementia-safety-at-home/): Dementia can change judgment, memory, movement, and the ability to respond when something goes wrong.
- [I’m Worried About Someone With Dementia Driving](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/dementia-and-driving/): Driving can become unsafe before the person recognizes that anything has changed.
- [Can This Person Still Make Their Own Medical Decisions?](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/decision-making-capacity/): Being confused, forgetful, very ill, or hard to understand doesn’t automatically mean someone can no longer make medical decisions.
- [I Need Help Deciding About Treatment](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/deciding-about-treatment/): There’s a decision in front of you. Maybe more treatment, maybe a different kind, maybe stopping.
- [I Need Death Certificates](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/death-certificates/): If the death certificate isn’t ready, find out what’s still waiting and who has that step.
- [I Need Funeral or Burial Arrangements That Respect Our Culture or Religion](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/cultural-and-religious-burial/): Cultural, religious, and family practices may affect how the person is handled, how quickly burial or cremation should happen, who may be present, and what rituals matter.
- [Caregiving Is Affecting My Job](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/caregiving-and-work/): Caring for someone can start with a few appointments and turn into missed shifts, late arrivals, calls from work, and days you can’t leave them alone.
- [Can This Person Be Left Alone?](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/can-they-be-left-alone/): This isn’t one question. It’s three.
- [I Need Help After a Veteran Dies](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/after-a-veteran-dies/): Tell the funeral home the person was a Veteran. That one sentence can start most of what follows.
- [I Am Afraid of the Person I Am Caring For](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/afraid-of-the-person-i-care-for/): Illness, dementia, brain injury, medication effects, pain, fear, or confusion may help explain threatening, aggressive, sexually inappropriate, or destructive behavior.
- [I Am Afraid of the Person Caring for Me](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/afraid-of-my-caregiver/): You depend on this person for help, and they also frighten you.
- [I Need Help When an Advance Directive Isn’t Being Followed](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/advance-directive-not-followed/): An advance directive may exist and the care being provided may still not seem to match it.
- [I Need Advance Directive Forms](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/advance-directive-forms/): No single document covers every decision. Start with what you need the document to do.
- [Help Finder](https://dyingtruth.org/help-finder/): Find who to call, what to say, and what to confirm before you rely on the plan.
- [Shop + Support](https://dyingtruth.org/shop-support/): The site is free and stays that way. Support pays for what comes next.
- [Patsy](https://dyingtruth.org/the-book/patsy/): Dying Truth: Your wishes become someone else’s job.
- [Introduction](https://dyingtruth.org/the-book/introduction/): Hospice social workers arrive near the end of someone else’s life. We stay until it’s over.
- [Home](https://dyingtruth.org/): Free resources from a hospice social worker. No ads. No login.
- [Contact](https://dyingtruth.org/contact/): Every message is read.
- [The Book](https://dyingtruth.org/the-book/): Different families. Different endings.
- [About](https://dyingtruth.org/about/): Dying Truth helps when you don’t know who to call, what to ask, or where to look next. It’s free. No ads. No login.

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